Missing Links Coaching - MaryAnne Calder

Let me Introduce the New Me!

MaryAnne Calder — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 02:04:14 +0000

I was recently asked if I had taken the time to get to know the new me? What a punch that question had on me. Had I taken the time to get to knew the new me? The me I had spent the past 4 years making changes too. I was not ready for the impact it had on me. However I looked at the question as a challenge. I had been so busy getting the draft ready for a new me, that I have not taken the time to introduce myself to me. So here goes. MaryAnne Calder, I would like you to meet the new and improved MaryAnne Calder, who has made many changes to her life. Some of those changes are, she is now a runner, she did a 5K run this summer. She now shops differently at the grocery store. She shops the perimeter where all the good food is. She loves trying new foods and has fallen in love with asparagus, avocado, sweet potatoes, halibut, goat cheese, and jicama. She is writing a book on her quest to finding the new and improved her. She has discovered her passion for sharing her experiences with others. One of the most rewarding activities she enjoys is playing ball with her grandsons and tea parties with granddaughters. Recently her husband and her enjoyed a picnic by the lake. It was an activity she had long had a passion for. She also has discovered how she can enjoy golfing with her husband simply by playing for the fun of the game with no expectations of perfection. The scenery is always incredible. She has also just completed the first phase in attaining her INTERPERSONAL WELLNESS LIFE COACHING. The best is the great enjoyment of spending quality time with family. This is the new me!

The one previously held fear that was keeping me from completely embracing the new me was the fear of the weight returning. This feeling manifested itself in eating in secret. Nothing is a secret and it did cause me to not get to the goal weight and gain 15 lbs. However after this exercise of introducing myself to me and facing the fear and knowing,”so what if I have gained I know how to reduce the weight.” I am spending time getting to know me. The new me does not fear weight gain anymore! When I feel the tinge of the old habit wanting to return, I simply say “the new me does not react that way anymore, I have changed that.” My days truly begin fast, and I live with purpose and finish strong. This is the new power tool I am using TRUTH that is greater than FORCE.

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Let me Introduce the New Me!

Purpsoe Driven Days

MaryAnne Calder — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 14:41:38 +0000

A purpose driven day to me is a day that you set goals and get to the goal podium! I PLEDGE TODAY TO DO THE BEST I CAN. TO REMEMBER TO PRAISE GOD FROM WHOM ALL BLESSINGS FLOW. Truth, I place high expectations on myself. I believe I am being watched by others, because of the talk game I have. And because I expect myself to be “on” all the time that means 24/7, 365. I am tired so I find that I want to hide. I now instead want to put it out there that, I am normal, I make the decisions I do because I too am on a curve to learning what will be the best for me. For this truth I am taking away the knowledge that I can take a time off and do something other than think, sleep, play, and eat this healthy journey. AH is that what I want, to be in the unconscious competent place? I think so. It is bit scary because I know this is not meaning that I quit, because that is not the option. However I can take time to enjoy other thoughts. Take time off. I am pulling out some tools that will help me make this work. The first one is motivation. My motivation, look where I have come from and all that I have already done and been rewarded for. Have a beautiful and blessed day.Wish you enough.

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Purpsoe Driven Days

Day of Purpose

MaryAnne Calder — Sat, 10 Apr 2010 15:19:27 +0000

I pledge to start this day living with purpose, to look for the wisdom/positive in the gremlins that make their appearance in my day, to be present in the moments of my day.
A purpose driven day, to me, is a day that you set goals and get to the goal podium! What is that goal? To live the best day. I PLEDGE TODAY TO DO THE BEST I CAN. TO REMEMBER TO PRAISE GOD FROM WHOM ALL BLESSINGS FLOW.

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Day of Purpose

Sometimes it is necessary to reteach yourself, your loveliness!

MaryAnne Calder — Sat, 10 Apr 2010 00:50:28 +0000

For the past 45 days I have been on a what feels like an archeological dig, digging away to find truths, that will aid me in making the choices for my healthy and thinner life. There have been many truths that I have uncovered. But by far the one that I uncovered in recent days is the greatest truth. THE NECESSITY TO RETEACH YOURSELF, YOUR LOVELINESS! And the following has been my journaling for today.

This week has been one that has had many an AH HA MOMENT. It began with a session with my mentor coach. I did not know what I wanted to start with when I opened up a conversation with her. But I did have one burning question. Why did I turn to the food source when I was attacked by the tired gremlin? Why was I having problems with respecting myself like a best friend? Believing I had the answer inside me, we talked about what were the possibilities for me to deal with the gremlin in another way. The answers are still working their, way to the surface but the good thing is, I have begun to take a step in the right direction, acknowledging that I need to look at another way of working thru the tiredness. One o f the things I have worked at is to acknowledge that I am tired and treat the emotion, not by hiding behind the food but to give myself the permission to have the emotion, admit to the feeling and deal with it by resting and then moving forward.

Now, the next AH MOMENT came with the reading of an article is which the author of Women, Food and God, Geneen Roth writes “TRUTH, NOT FORCE, DOES THE WORK OF ENDING COMPULSIVE EATING.” The truth shall set you free. Unearthing truths that are inside me is the way that I will continue to make the decision for the healthy life I desire.

The poet Galway Kinnell wrote;

“SOMETIMES IT IS NECESSARY TO RETEACH A THING ITS LOVELINESS”

Today my purpose is to begin to reteach myself, my loveliness. What about you?

Have a beautiful and blessed day, wish you enough.

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Sometimes it is necessary to reteach yourself, your loveliness!

GO FOR THE “GOAL”

MaryAnne Calder — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 22:23:53 +0000

As the Olympics goes into it’s second week of competition I have to admit I am not the kind of a person to sit and watch a full game or downhill skiing or what ever the event maybe. That does not mean I am not proud of our Canadian Athletes. I am. I just don’t enjoy the sport of watching. What does interest me are the human interest stories of the athletes. The sheer determination of all the athletes from all the countries to be at the Olympics competing for a spot on the medal podium. No curler is at the games curling their first game, no skier is skiing downhill or cross country for the first time at the games, no skater is stepping on the ice for the first time at the games. Everyone one of the competitors at the games, trained hard, work long hours, made mistakes, had setbacks, had victories and maybe more set backs. And everyone one of them started out an ordinary person looking to do extra ordinary things. What strikes me the most is the fact that many of those who compete have come back from setbacks and many have accomplished many victories already before the world stage games. What I am taking from their determination is that set backs did not stop them from working harder, longer, to get to be at these games. So why is it that those of us who have our own “Goal Podium” will take a setback as a negative and give up on our Goals. I believe that a setback is a learning experience and victories are to be celebrated but that they too are learning experiences. I am certain that quitting was not an option for any of those that made it to the games. So why is it that when we have roadblocks on our journey to our “GOAL” we look at quitting as the only option. I believe that we have the choice to make our “GOAL” a no option zone. I want to stand on my Medal Podium to reach for my “Goal” to get the Win that I am reaching for. What about you? Build a bridge with your gathered experiences and get over the road block.

You maybe ordinary but you can accomplish extra ordinary things. Go for the “GOAL”

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GO FOR THE “GOAL”

Putting the Gremlins in their place once and for all!

MaryAnne Calder — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 16:42:18 +0000

I want to share some goals that I would like to work towards in the next few months. Having had this revelation this morning “when we take detours in life that are on the way to being destructive, it so good to know that it does not mean you can’t get back on the road to the successes that got you the desired results for the life that you want. I am grateful that I have the learned experience that nothing is every not reversible.” I would like to making a more detailed explanation of what this means to me. First I had one of the roughest weeks of my journey in a very long time. I don’t know why. What I do know is that I needed to go back to the reason I begin this journey to a healthy and thinner me. That reason begin to create a life that I could enjoy my family and in particular my grandchildren, by being present with their activities and their accomplishments. I have had so much fun doing that, so then why I ask myself, am I not seeing that at this point in my journey. Oh yeah I lost focus on the road. So here is what I am doing. Setting goals, journal, journal, journal, writing my thoughts. Being prepare, doing the positive self talk, (so when thoughts of aging make their appearance in my line of vision, I will say “okay I know you are there, but as a gremlin, I am going to place you over there so you will not take away my joy of being.”) And I will be accountable to myself and to others. So there it is! Oh yeah my goal is to set the course and stay with my healthy eating program, workout out 5-6 days a week, being accountable, and blogging once a week. The reality is it will have to be a planned goal written down. This will be the options; to not do it is not one of them, I have the experience of knowing that being prepare is the best option I have. Why? Because I like my life! This goal is one I am setting for the next six weeks then it is up for review. So I am holding myself accountable to you who read this. Please make me accountable to you and follow my steps on this path of the journey.

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Putting the Gremlins in their place once and for all!

I may be

MaryAnne Calder — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 01:26:59 +0000

ordinary but does that mean I have to act ordinary? I say that because I want to let you know that I may do everyday things that change how I make this journey in life but I am not influence by a major event in my life. I have no U-turn in my life that made me make the choice to be healthy and thinner. What I have done is changed how ordinary. everyday things help me get the desired results. So because I use to do one thing one way once does not mean I am doing that ordinary way now.

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A good goal for 2010

MaryAnne Calder — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 18:56:57 +0000

In order to create the perfect day, we must plan not only our schedules, but also our attitude. I am going to adopted this as my motto for 2010. How about you? Post from: Missing Links Coaching - MaryAnne CalderA good goal for 2010

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A good goal for 2010

Planning for the New Year

MaryAnne Calder — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 03:25:17 +0000

2010 HERE I COME AND ARE YOU GOING TO FOLLOW ME?
Hard to believe that another decade has come and gone and that we are into the next decade of the 21st century.

There are two Questions that I want to ask and answer for myself on this NEW YEAR’S EVE as the last closing hours of 2009 happen.

#1 What did I learn in 2009 that made my life better than the year 2008?

What I learned was that my body has 4 rooms. The mental room, the physical room, the spiritual room and the emotional room and if I don’t visit every room once a day, even if it is just to air them out; I will not be able to function as a healthy, well person and I will not be able to help those I have a passion to help, reach for their healthy well person.

So I will continue to make daily visits to these rooms that are so vital to make life positive and pleasurable.

I also learned that if you do have to deal with the consequences when gremlins come along and get you to take your eye off the goal.

# 2 What can I do in 2010 to improve on the things that I learned in 2009?

I will continue to be persistent and positive and improve each day. So that when the gremlins come to interfere with the routine of life, I will only get stronger at sending them packing. I will remember the reason for all the hard work and that is so I can play with my wonderful grandchildren and enjoy life as the healthy person I desire to be.

I am also grateful for My husband who is my support when times of melt down come.

I am also grateful for the Greatest gift ever given to world JESUS.

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL WHO READ THIS.

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Planning for the New Year

Just Say No

MaryAnne Calder — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 04:28:00 +0000

Monday, November 09, 2009

If we can just learn to say no to the call of the the temptation of the food that calls our name and do it with success for 14 days and then for 21 days we may well have trained the brain to work together to get us the desired results that we want. Success for looks like this day three was a just say no day and

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Just Say No